EMERGENCY NEED HELP SAVING MY DAUGHTER & GRANDAUGHTER

Christan Forbes Start Date: Jan 20, 2024 - End Date: May 18, 2024
  • Kailua, HI, United States of America

My Travel Story

by: Christan Forbes Start Date: Jan 20, 2024 - End Date: May 18, 2024
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE IF YOU CAN TAKE TIME TO READ TO THE END PLEASE IT IS AN EMERGENCY........THANK YOU AND GODBLESS EVERYONE........Hello everyone, I am a desperate mother and grandmother who lives in North Carolina and my daughter and granddaughter live all the way in Kaulia Hawaii. The reason I am asking for help is due to the fact of my daughter got married about 3 years ago to a United States Marine who was stationed here in NC when they met. This guy showed alot of red flags but my daughter was in love so they married and not long after my beautiful granddaughter was born here in NC. I saw the red flags but she unfortunately did not. My daughter is very smart and has a good head on her shoulders she enrolled in Cosmetology school here in NC and maintained a 4.0 GPA throughout every semester. Long story short her husband had the chance to remain here in NC for another 4 years, which would have made the most sense due to the fact my daughter only had 1 month of school left as well as they had just purchased a beautiful home about 45 mins from me and the rest of her family, but instead of that he asked to be moved to Hawaii ( since the beginning he has tried his best to isolate her from her family and friends) so trying to be a good wife and support her husband's decisions she had to drop out of school and sell the home they had just purchased only 4 months prior to him putting in this request to move. So they moved and she enrolled in school in Hawaii to become a birth Dula, she graduated and got a job and that enraged her husband. He did not want her to have her own money nor make any friends.Once they were far away his true self slowly started to show. He commenced to taking her phone or shutting the service off so she wouldn't be available when her clients were to go into labor. He wouldn't let her leave the house without him he sold his vehicle so he would have to use hers to get to work (work that was a 5 min walk) so her and the baby couldn't leave. Three months after they moved I received a phone call from my frantic daughter telling me my granddaughter suddenly out of nowhere had a seizure and then stopped breathing (mind u she was always a healthy baby) Thank God the neighbors heard them screaming to call 911 and the female neighbor ran over and started CPR immediately and saved her life. The ambulance arrived and took her to the childrens hospital where she was put into ICU. I had plans to go and visit for the first time a few months later then all of this, but i was on the next flight out and arrived the next day. Thankfully she was released from the hospital 2 days later and they could never find out what happened or why it happened. So now ofcourse we are all on high alert incase it should happen again. I stayed for 2 months and then flew back home once she was all the way better. When I was there I could sense things were not ok between them and I could def tell she wasn't happy, but at that point she wasn't ready to let the truth out as she was trying to be complacent in order to keep her family together ( I was a single mom and her dad rarely saw her) and she wanted better for her baby girl. Well I went back again to visit a few months after coming back to NC and stayed another 2 months to help watch the baby so she could work and he really started showing scary signs and I was terrified to leave her but I had no choice. May I mention during this visit her pregnant neighbor was going through similar things with her husband and the Military did nothing to protect her they only covered up what the husband did. My last day there while leaving to got to the airport the husband (nextdoor) ended up stabbing the wife and unborn child 41 times ending both of there lives. So as you can imagine I am extremely worried for my girls at this point, it was a rude awakening realizing the military only looks out for there own, that was my peace having my girls so far away was the fact that they were on a military base so they were protected but boy was I wrong. .. So now I have headed back to NC and things just start going downhill, my daughter was still trying to hide these things because she knew once she told me I wasn't gonna stand for it and would do everything to get her home, but she wasn't ready. I could tell things were bad we video call multiple times a day everyday and I no my baby better then I no myself. Well finally a few months went by and my financial situation became difficult so I was not able to go back to visit, so I was able to talk her husband into sending my girls to NC for a month. Well while she was here he would call over and over all hours of the night and day saying awful, hurtful things to the point of after being here for 2 weeks she cut the trip short and flew back home. I was suppose to fly back with her but at that time I could not afford it. When she new I wasn't coming back the look in her eyes said it all and it has broken me to pieces. She had mentioned a few things finally that had been going on while she was here but she made it out to be her fault most of the time and it wasn't anything alarming. Well once she got back things got really bad he started verbally abusing her and the baby constantly. He would take her phone and put trackers on it so he could see every call and message, he put hidden cameras everywhere in the house and would watch her while she thought she was alone. He cut all ties with his parents as well as went into her phone and blocked her from speaking to his mom and they usually spoke daily. He made her lose her job because he would take her phone from her and leave with it and leave her and the baby without a phone and he would take both carseats ( remember the babies health issues previously) He continually threatens to kill himself and take her and the baby with him. She called the MPs ( military police as they live on base so they cant call the regular police) one night because he locked her in the bathroom for hours and once he let her out he choked her untill she blacked out, so the MPs came and took him away he was supposed to be put on suicide watch for atleast 48 hours since he was continously threatening to take his own life as well as my girls lives, due to the threats he was supposed to be evaluated by a doctor and ofcourse never was, he was not supposed to be allowed back to the house untill further notice, but they did non of that he was released a few hours later and was dropped off at the home by his commander ( his commander is his best friend) after being dropped off he was never made to be evaluated and has also been allowed to not show up to work ( no call no show) he has been left there with her day in and day out. He is basically holding her hostage and I cannot get anyone out there to help. I don't have the funds to go out there to her. She was able to file for divorce but she cannot afford an attorney so she was advised to serve the papers to him herself. He is threatening to take the baby even tho he has never been involved with her like so not involved to the point if she needs to be changed or fed he refuses to do it and will make my daughter stop everything or he will wake her up to do it even while he is awake or right there ( he is a gamer that's all he does and God forbid he lose a game he destroys everything and throws tamtrums and then the abuse and torture for the day and night escalates).... He keeps both of them up all night, she locks herself in the baby's room at night because he is a heavy drinker (even tho he was ordered to not drink) and he beats and bangs on the door all night long, every time she gets the baby to sleep he comes beating on the doors and walls again. He keeps videoing bits and pieces of the baby screaming from him waking her and speaks in the background telling a story as if my daughter is hurting the baby. He has takin the door off the hinges now so she gets no peace now ever. He tells the baby to tell her mommy she is stupid and has taught her to spit In her face and to throw things and destroy things when she dosnt get her way. I need HELP PLEASE I AM BEGGING ANYONE TO PLEASE HELP ME GET TO THEM. While all of this is happening the military is doing nothing, like they are suppose to pay for her and the baby and there things to fly and get shipped back to her home in NC once the divorce is final but they have already refused because its up to the command and being the command is his best friend he is helping him to hurt her. He has stated multiple times that once he gets finished with her she will be homeless and alone left with no phone,car, or roof over her head all the way in HI. I cannot believe the Marines Corps can get away with all of this and they wonder why so many of these guys end up killing there spouces and kids. Rather then removing him from the home temporarily untill the divorce is final and she is able to leave (which those steps are standard) instead they allow him to be there with her 24/7 he has not been to work in 4 weeks and 2days as of today. They are allowing him to drink from sun up to way past sun down. He has made it to where she is completely dependent on him and has isolated her to the point of she knows nobody out there to just snatch everything and leave her stranded across the world from anybody or anything she knows. Sorry for the long story trust and believe there is much more but I won't write all of that, I just wanted to give everyone an idea of how this happened and how I can help her escape it. This is the worst it's always been just me and her for 24 years I lost my mom and grandmother 20 days apart when I was 19 and my daughter was 3 so for all these years I am it for her and she is it for me, and now this guy sold her a lie knowing all she wanted was a functional family and would do anything to make him happy but everyone has a breaking point and my job as a mom is to be there and help her pick up the pieces and move forward but I'm stuck due to financial reasons. I have a job but it's closed down for remodeling it closed the last week of August and won't reopen untill mid March 2024 so I'm stuck and need help. I checked the box for the fundraiser to be open ended due to the fact of I need to get there ASAP and would need some extra money to get us into a temporary place, I would never accept anymore than i need and will only accept help for the basics to survive, help with a lawyer, and flights back home once its over, I am not asking for others to pay for everything while im there we will be able to help as well especially since she just got a job a a local bank today and can start next week but she has no childcare, she also got a part time job as a hotel clerk on the base she lives on where she can make her own hours, plus if I can get there to her by this weekend I have scored a job babysitting I found online on base so I can make money while I am there as well but they need me to start Monday, but if I can't get there that fast there are plenty of jobs there i have already submitted my resume to alot of places online. By no means are we lazy nor do we expect to sit back and not contribute every single dime we make to this to get this divore and custody done right and legally and then get back to NC ASAP. The plan is to get there find a place (since the divorce whether contested or not will take around 6 weeks to 2 months)hopefully get this babysitting job so I can make money and watch my granddaughter while my daughter works and also I plan to find a night job as a waitress or bartender since she will be home. If.I can get there by this Sunday the timing should be perfectly set up to be back home in NC for the reopening of my job mid March plus my daughter has a job here in NC waiting for her as soon as she gets here. We need to hire an attorney ASAP so we can get him served and have a fighting chance on this custody crap he is threatening. BUT NONE OF THIS WILL WORK IF I CANT GET THERE AND WE CANT GET TO WORK.... THE SOONER THE BETTER.... I NO IM ASKING ALOT, I HAVE NEVER EVER REACHED OUT LIKE THIS I HAVE ALWAYS DONE THINGS ON MY OWN BUT I AM DESPERATE AND MY GIRLS ARE MY LIFE SO PLEASE IF YOU CAN HELP EITHER WITH FUNDS OR FLIGHT MILES AND MOST DEF PRAYERS LOTS OF PRAYERS PLEASE....I PROMISE THAT ONCE I GET MY GIRLS HOME AND GET BACK TO WORK I WILL REPAY ANY KINDNESS I RECEIVE BY HELPING SOMEONE ELSE THAT MAY FIND THEMSELVES IN ANY TYPE OF MESS LIFE THROWS AT US.... I HAVE PUT IT ALL IN GODS HANDS SO EVEN IF U CANT DONATE PLEASE PRAY FOR US TO FIND A WAY....THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO TOOK TIME TO READ ALL OF THIS..... FEEL FREE TO ASK ME ANYTHING.... MY PAYPALhttps://www.paypal.me/MrsGldO
  • Kailua, HI, United States of America