HELP A FORMER FIREFIGHTER UNITE WITH THE LOVE OF HIS LIFE

Tony Tristano Start Date: Jul 24, 2023 - End Date: Jul 23, 2024
  • Cultural Exchange
  • Missionary Service
  • Vacation/Personal Trip
  • Lagos, Nigeria
  • Seychelles

My Travel Story

by: Tony Tristano Start Date: Jul 24, 2023 - End Date: Jul 23, 2024
  • Cultural Exchange
  • Missionary Service
  • Vacation/Personal Trip
Hello To Everyone! & May God Bless You & Your Loved Ones!

My name is Tony Valentino Tristano. I am coming to everyone asking for monetary donations so that I can Finally be with the Love of My Life. Her name is Joy and She currently lives in Lagos Nigeria and has family in Essex England. We have been together for almost 3 years and have been unable to see each other due to circumstances such as covid, financial hardships and needing to spend what money we have on basic needs and just living. We have plans for me to fly to Lagos Nigeria in late August and be married in early September. We would then qualify for my beautiful wife to be Joy's CR-1 Spousal VISA.

This process can take up to a year so when I go to Lagos Nigeria, we plan on being together during all of that time that Her CR-1 VISA Application Packet is waiting to be seen and approved by the Embassy Consulate Officer. We will not be able to separate after we are together because we have been apart for so long and we have decided that me flying back is not a choice and that we will be staying together. We will be Wed in Lagos and for the period of up to one year that it take to get Her VISA approved, we will be staying in Seychelles. Once Her VISA is Finally approved, we will Be Flying back to The United States. At That point, Joy might be Pregnant... Which is one of The Most Wonderful Thoughts that I can have!

Due to financial hardships lately, we are asking all those Kind, Loving and Generous people that read this to support us in Finally seeing to it that the Love of my Life (whose name is Joy Victoria Joseph) and I are united once and for all. The things that need to be covered are... Both of Our plane tickets, Our wedding certificate, my proposal ideas, a small wedding ceremony at her church in Lagos, Wedding attire made by my Lovely Wife to be Joy (The Materials), Funds to help with a place to stay, All the monies that are needed for her VISA application, Rapid Visa Fees, USCIS Application & Processing Fees and a small amount for unseen events.

We would be so grateful to everyone for us Finally being United, holding each other for the very first time! As a hobby I put YouTube videos together. Most of them are music videos that I edit and put music that I've remixed to. What I want to do for Everyone is take lots of pictures and have people take video of us on our trips to meet each other and when we Finally are United so that Everyone can share in our joy. We've prayed and prayed about this and what seems to be the answer is... To simply ask other people that have the funds that we do not... For what We Need. 

My Fiancee Joy is an Extremely Talented Fashion Designer. She is just starting out in that career field and she does have a small shop, However as many of you may know... A Business that is only just starting has to have all of the profits reinvested into the business for it to grow for at least the first two years. In all of her pictures of Her, you can see her talent because she has made every outfit that she is in. This includes a few wonderful wedding dresses and part of what we are asking for are the means with which she can make our wedding outfits. As far as what I am doing, I have set up a Remodeling & Handyman Business which is brand new. I have the basic things I need which include a Business phone, Business cards and Tools. I just need to get a client base. Since I am travelling to Lagos to Wed my Fiancee and we will be staying in Seychelles, that is where I will get my client base. My Truck recently had it's engine go out and it was too expensive to Fix so that added to our Financial Hardships.

The following is a bit of History of myself and when I met Joy. You will find that I have had a lot of, let's just say... "life experience." Lots of bad but also lots of good and I wouldn't trade it for aAnything because it led me to my beautiful wife to be... Joy. I Love her with all of my Heart and all of my Soul. I Love Her with every breath I take and every beat of My Heart. She means everything to me and we want to have a beautiful Family together. I've always said that I want to have four kids with twins in there somewhere and she's always said that she's wanted three kids with twins in there somewhere LOL. How ever many kids we do have... They will be a True Blessing and each one a Miracle from God. Even if we just have one it would mean everything to Us. Please help us make this a reality and I promise to have video taken of it and many pictures that you can see on my YouTube channel. My channel is.... FirefighterTristano

Thank you so much for reading up to this point and if you are interested please keep reading as this is my life and I want to share it with other people, especially those that would like to help us with monetary means to be able to make this all happened. I love God and I love my wife to be and I love all of those who are so generous and kind and loving as to make this happen!

Here is the part where I tell you a bit about my story and our story........

I grew up in Duluth Minnesota. After I graduated high school, I went into the United States Air Force. I went through special Warfare selection School and went through the para rescue jumper indoctrination course. I went through training that took 2 years to complete and out of 120 people I graduated with 12 other people. For two years I trained as a ParaRescuman and then I was operational for 6 years. I was stationed at Aviano Air Force Base in Italy. I operated in Southeastern Europe and Africa under United States Air Forces Europe (USAFE) and United States Air Force Africa (AFAFRICA) I was in the Kosovo Campaign and many operations in West Africa and North Africa with some being in Central and East Africa.

I served with distinction as a Special Forces ParaRescuman (Combat Rescue & Combat Medic) that was either assigned in a two-man unit or with other units of the US military. Such as United States Army Rangers, United States Navy SEALS and United States Operational Detachment Delta Force. I Operated in North and West Africa before 9/11 happened. While I was operating in Nigeria, I helped save a lot of people known as the Igbo in the Southeastern part of Nigeria. We were not supposed to engage but we could not stand and just let things happen like they were happening. So we engaged when we were not supposed to, however we saved a lot of people. Thank God we were there. My Wife to be happens to be of Igbo Ancestry.

After 9/11 happened in 2001, I was reassigned to Afghanistan and was there for a year and a half participating in and sometimes leading operations. I earned a Bronze Star Medal among others while Operating with The Teams. Once we invaded Iraq again, I was reassigned to Iraq and I was there for an additional year and a half.  In 2004 my 8 years of Duty came up and I had to make the choice to continue in the United States Military for another 12 years or become a Firefighter and Rescue Specialist like my Father before me.
 
I almost stayed in the Military because they wanted me to very much and it took a lot to get to the point where I was. It was a 51/49 vote within my mind and I ended up sticking with my plan to become a Fireman like my Father. I went to a Fire Academy in California and became a Professional Firefighter, Rescue Specialist and Paramedic. I was a Professional Firefighter for over 10 years and went to Pacific Christian Center in Orcutt California. I also worked as a Tactical Office and later as an Instructor at The same Fire Academy that I had gone to. Since I was a Nationally Registered Paramedic, I did Part-Time & Fill-In work for San Luis Ambulance Service in San Luis Obispo County, California.
A few years back I was a Lieutenant at the Fire Department and we got a call the day after Christmas. It was a two-story house that was on fire and there were two little girls reported to be trapped in their bedroom upstairs. We were the closest Engine and First-In.

I made the decision to go in and try to rescue the two little girls. A Good Friend of mine and I went in with our Thermal Imagers and made our way upstairs and found the two little girls. They were unconscious from smoke inhalation but alive. We each put one over our shoulder and proceeded to carry them out of the burning building. We were going down the stairs but Before we could get out... The whole house collapsed on us. Sadly it killed my Good Friend and the little girl he was carrying. I was able to save the one that I was carrying by falling on top of her and covering her up with my body.

I woke up 4 Weeks later in the hospital from a coma. They said that a beam had come underneath the brim of my fire helmet and split my head open and pushed little bits and fragments of my skull into the speech center of my brain. So I had what's called expressive aphasia. I knew what I wanted to say but it came out as nonsense. I had to do speech therapy for 4 and 1/2 months to learn how to talk again. They also had to do surgeries on other parts of my body that were injured badly. Both of my knees had been completely shattered and they had to rebuild them. My left shoulder had been damaged and they needed to do surgery on it. And part of my lower left back had been broken. It's taken many surgeries to get to the point to where I'm at now. I think God that I am alive and for all that I have. I Thank God for Eagle Brook and all of my friends there.

About 6 years ago I moved back to Minnesota from California and started going to Eagle Brook Church because of someone that I know that goes there. I also met a beautiful woman that was originally from Brazil and was going to marry her. About three and a half years ago she was killed while visiting her mom in New York. She was pregnant and I was working here in Minnesota at the time and couldn't go with her on her trip to New York to visit her mom. They called and told me that a semi truck had collided with her car because of icy conditions. I was devastated as I've lost almost all of my immediate family. Losing her. Was extremely hard, however my Friends at Eagle Brook Church were there for me. Joy was there for me and Always is. I can not express enough of what she means to me and what it means for those Generous, Kind and Loving People that make this happen.

I lost my Brother who was 4 years older than me, just before I graduated ParaRescue School and got my Maroon Beret. He was killed in action and that was my first big loss. Then I lost my Father due to a heart attack and my Mother due to a stroke and brain bleed. I lost one sister to cancer and another sister to a thyroid disease. Now I only have my half sister Danielle. (Dani) Who goes to Eagle Brook Church with me for about 5 years now. She was baptized at Eagle Brook just last year and I praise God for that! My Fiancee Joy is so very much looking forward to going with me to Eagle Brook Church. We want to have a beautiful Family and all go to Eagle Brook Church Together.

We have been desperately trying to see each other for the past three years, however it's been extremely difficult because of Covid, travel restrictions, money difficulties, and other monetary difficulties. She is an extremely amazing and good Christian woman who loves God. She wants to be able to come here and go to Eagle Brook Church with me and start a family. I've been having a lot of problems lately with money and housing.

My disability was denied after 4 years of trying to get it. I didn't know anything about the system when I first got hurt and workers compensation only lasted so long and was told that I needed to apply for disability to receive funds after it had run out. I thought at first that since I paid into the system that I would just get Social Security Disability RSDI the first time that I applied. But I came to find out that only about 5% of people who apply the first time actually get it and everyone else has to appeal it. I appealed it four times over 4 years and finally got to a court date. I also did not know that I could switch lawyers because he was not a very good lawyer. He did not talk about my Mental Health at all and was just a poor Lawyer all around. When we had the court date they found that I could do one job which was view video monitors so they denied me my RSDI which would have been $3,200 per month and about $150,000 in back pay. $30,000 of that would have went to the lawyer had they granted me what I feel is rightfully mine. 

I lost Everything that I had while waiting for RSDI Social Security to start and receive all of the back pay. I lost my Home which was worth an estimated $440,000 at that time. I had managed to put 20% down on it and it was nearly halfway paid off when I finally lost it due to now being able to pay the mortgage. I had to sell my Truck and my motorcycle to pay the bills and I ended up using up all of my Savings. I had to cash out my Retirement Fund early which absolutely killed me. It was just starting to really earn a lot within itself. After 3 years of no money coming in and being denied RSDI Social Security, I lost my Home

So in order to get money I started working with a friend of mine.  At that point, I had 14 Total surgeries with all of the physical therapy that those entail. So even though things hurt, I forced myself to use my body to work on the only other thing that I knew how to do, which is remodeling. I found a house that was in Mendota Heights that the owner of the house received from his father when he passed away. He did not want to fix it up, he just wanted to sell it. I did not have the credit or money to purchase the house but a friend of mine did. So he purchased the house to fix up and we lived there for over a year while we fixed up the whole house and turned the basement into a second living level. 
When it came time to sell the house I asked my friend what we are going to do next and he said that he had gotten a house and we were going to do the same thing. Live in it and fix it up while we were there. So when the house actually sold, he went to live with his sister after making over $150,000 in profit and told me to just go do whatever. It seems that he didn't want to work after making so much money and lied to me about getting another house to work on. So this made me essentially Homeless and I had to stay with family and friends. Now I am in the process of getting an apartment through State funding and reapplying for disability. (RSDI)

I have strong ties with the Igbo people because of my prior service as a United States Special services soldier serving in various parts of Africa including Nigeria. My wife to be is Igbo. She is amazing and I Truly believe that God has brought us together. She goes to a Christian Church in Lagos, Nigeria and is part of the choir there. I met Her 3 years ago come August 20th through some Friends. We would like to Finally be United on our 3 Year Anniversarry, which is Augusut 20th. Joy and I are Twin Flames Finally Reunited. She is not only my wife to be but She is My Soul Mate, My Best Friend, My Confidant, My Companion, My Ride or Die, Mi Amore, My Love, My Omalicha Onyinye ChuKwu and My Forever Woman. Thank You so much to those making this possible. Thank You with All of My Heart and All of My Soul, Thank You.

As you can see I've had a lot of loss in my life... losing my Brother, my Best Friend, my Mom, my Dad, my two Sisters and my pregnant Fiance about three and a half years ago. I would very much appreciate Your help with being United with my beautiful Fiance Joy. We are asking for help so that I can go there and be married and we can apply for her CR1 Spouse Visa to be able to enter the United States and start a Beautiful Family and all go to Eagle Brook Church Together.

I was thinking that sometime down the road once we're married and she has her VISA and is here and attending Eagle Brook Church at the white bear campus where I currently go and have been going for the last 6 years... We could do testimonials so that it could encourage, uplift and help other people. Our Pastor could even do a story on us that would be uplifting and encouraging and a story about love, loving god, coming together no matter how far the distance and triumph of the human spirits and soul

Joy is Very Active in her Church and is part of the Church Choir. I am very Active in My Church as well. One of the reasons that we chose Seychelles as the place we will be Together while we wait for Her Visa is that it is predominantly Christian. While we have Friends of all different Faiths, We are both Christian and will be Active in The Church there in Seychelles. We are willing to do missionary services too. Wherever the need may be, we Want to do that and both have a very very strong and Unbreakable Love for God.

We've been praying and praying about this all for so long and so many times and I feel very comfortable and confident in asking for help from Everyone Reading This.I Believe that God has directed me to you to ask for these things and to put my pride and my ego away so that I can be the Man that others need to be, especially my Wife to be. Thank you so much for your time and reading this. I am so much looking Forward to being United with My Fiancee and for us being married Thanks to your generous Donations. Remember that we will be taking lots of photos and videos for you to see and you will be able to see and feel a part of what we do. Remember my YouTube Chanel, which is Firefightertristano. Thank you again and I hope you have a wonderful day. May God bless you and your loved ones.

With Much Love,

Tony Valentino Tristano & Joy Victoria Joseph (soon to be Joy Victoria Tristano)

Below is My Paypal Account in which You can make Monetary Donations.
Both Joy & I Thank You with ALL of Our Hearts & May God Bless Your Soul

paypal.me/TonyTristano1111

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