Salt lake city to Barstow then LA ( Doctors appointments )
My Travel Story
My name is Gina, I am 50 years old I have two beautiful daughters Destiny and kayla. My daughters are both grown Destiny is 32 years old and Kayla is 31 years old. I have been married twice, the first marriage ended in divorce we were both to young when we married, I was 17 years old,, it just ended up very unhappy and bad so after 12 years of marriage we ended it. I remarried several years later ( married on 07-07-07 ) to the most wonderful man I have ever met, I honestly had no idea that marriage could be so absoulutely wonderful, Robert and I were best friends, we loved each other very much, Robert was my everything. . My husband Robert passed away August 7th 2021.. we were truly soulmates I believe, he got sick with kidney disease, prostate cancer and he had a aorta aneurysm, the surgery for the aneurysm killed him several days after his surgery, he bled to death, the hospital said they would't repair the aorta leak because he was going to die anyhow because the cancer he had spread and they said he wouldnt survive the surgery again anyhow so he bled to death, it took 3 days it was absoulutly horrible
I need the funds for myself and my youngest daughter Kayla, my daughter has a brain malformation called Arnold chiari malformation, she had to have brain surgery a few years ago for the condition. This condition she has is incurable, the surgery for this condition is to hopefully just relieve some of the symptoms temporarily but there is no cure.. There is so much going on in our lives.
I had a hard time, a really hard time with Robert passing away.. I stayed in bed, I didn't shower I was devastated.. my mom was calling almost every day to check on me, her and I hadn't seen each other in about 7 years or so, I had moved out of state when I was 19 years old and only got to go and see her a few times and for just like a day or two at a time... Well I'll be 51 years old in November so I hadn't seen my mom very much over the years but we did talk on the phone alot.. so anyhow my mom was worried about how I was doing .. and also because the home we were all living in was in desperate need of repairs and the ceiling was falling down because of the roof needing to be fixed, when it rained outside it also rained inside to the point I had to roll my pants legs up when I went down the hallway or went into the kitchen, but pretty much the whole house leaked it was just worse in the kitchen and hallway. It had gotten so much worse after Robert passed away, I dont know why.
My mom wanted me to come stay with her and we were to look for a bigger house and we were going to relocate to Oregon and buy a house together... She called almost everyday and she would send me pictures of houses and so forth .. finally I agreed to relocate after a year of having this conversation with my mom almost everyday on the phone. .. even though I did just absolutely love where I lived ( Stagecoach, NV ) and I did love my home even though it was falling apart... That was my home and I loved it.. . I sold my home, I wasn't able to get much for it because of the condition it was in but I sold it exactly a year after my husband passed away...
That was the absolute worst mistake I have ever made in my life... I have gotten myself into a bad bad situation, I am so miserable... I am just sick to my stomach every day to think of what I have done. The day I got to my mom's house she told me she decided she didn't was to move anymore... She said she was afraid to sale her house and then if things didn't work out she was afraid of being homeless... I can't believe she changed her mind... I sold my home, my mom lives in Barstow California, I was born here but really can't stand this place.. I told her before I sold my home that she better not change her mind because I never wanted to have to live in Barstow again not to mention we were both to sale our homes and put our money together to relocate and buy a new one together. .
I ended up helping family here little by little and now I am just stuck here. The money I had for her and I to buy a home is gone. My daughter Kayla is having health issues again from her condition. She also has a brain tumor. Either the chiari or the tumor is causing her to have episodes of psychosis. Kayla and I are extra close we always have been... She and I want to be together again she needs for me to help her with her doctor's appointments and MRI appointments and all that goes with it... She is in Utah with her dad in which they don't get along very well, she has been calling me and sending me messages about everyday telling me how scared she is because of her brain acting up again and how she needs to be here with me.. I have no way to get her here my car blew a head gasket last August and I don't have a car now.
I need a car to take her to her appointments and I need to get her here.. the only reason she is with her dad is because my mom's house is so awkward and uncomfortable.. I have to stay in the back bedroom 24/7 because her dogs are mean and one of them tries to bite me every time i come out of the room... And she don't get on to them and make them behave.. plus I have my dogs and we have to keep them apart because her dogs are not willing to get along with mine, the two times that they did come into contact with each other her dog charged at my dog and bit my dog on the face, my dog was fine.... my dog is a boxer/pit mix very mellow shes a wonderful dog, when my moms chihuahua bit my dogs face my dog turned and ran straight to me she looked as if she had her feeling hurt more than anything... with that being said this is why we have to stay in the room with the door shut, me just having to leave the room to go to the bathroom causeses chaos in the house, her dogs just go nuts, one tries to bite me and they both bark and bark and bark, they will literally bark in a craze for like 10 or 15 minutes after I return to the room.
This was not the plan, this is a nightmare. I need a job desperately, I want to work more than anything so I could get out of this situation, I need a car and I need to move out of my moms house. I have no problem with going to work, I have worked a good part of my life... I started working when I was 14 years old... I have been a dispatcher, I worked in security, I have been a casino manager, I worked in a warehouse I am not one to not work. I would work as much as possible, get two jobs or work double shifts.... I dont care I just need work. Now heres the issue. . . I told my mom that I need to go get a job bad that I cant just sit here in this room all day everyday its making me nuts I need work, I told her that I could walk or take a bus I dont care, I dont even care where I get a job at, I will work any job I could find.. . . She said she doesnt want me going to work because my dogs are in the room and if I even leave them alone in the room for a few minutes they start whinning and my mom says that she cant have that so I am to stay in the room with them.... my dogs get upset when I leave the room, my dogs didnt get all upset like this before my husband passed away, he and I went places and so forth and they were fine but after he passed away they dont like it when I have to go anywhere, this is a problem, I feel like I have no options, I have no way to even get myself out of this situation and get back on my feet. Well let me take the no options part back for a sec. . . my daughter Kayla lived with me in Stagecoach, her and my dogs love each other to death, the dogs dont act up and get all upset when I leave if Kayla is with them so if I could just get her here then she would be with the dogs so I could work. I will need to get Kayla to all of her doctors appointments and get her back to being ok before anything though, she is not well and I would not be able to leave her alone right at this time. This is why I need a car and help getting one.
I apologize for writing so much, I will get to the point .. there is just so so much going on.. the bottom line is that I need help getting a vehicle and getting my daughter to me. I also will need to register the vehicle and get insurance and be able to get my daughter to her appointments...she has to see specialist for her condition so I will be having to drive her to LA most likely..
I do get my husbands retirement money but that is only $331.00 a month and I give my mom somewhere around $150 to stay here and I have to pay on a credit card, I usually pay around $75.00 on it, so that doesnt leave me with much at all.
My mom's house is stressful.. her dogs bark and bark and bark... They will sit at the door and bark.. it is irritating and stressful..
Once Kayla's medical issues are back on track ( I'm praying they can be back on track ) then I will be able to go back to work and get the two of us out of my mom's house and into our own place..
Life has been very difficult and very stressful for both my daughter and I it seems the only luck we have is bad luck. We need help, we need for things to turn around and start getting better. I want for us to live life again and maybe even have happy times again. I am a hard worker and I can pull us out of this situation but I need help to get it started, I dont know how I can do it without help. I hate asking for help but I feel like my daughter and I have zero options without it.
I want to thank you for taking the time to read this, I want to thank you also for helping others.... even if I am not chosen to recieve help I want to say thank you... its refreshing to know that there are still people that care for others and are willing to help.... THANK YOU!
Gina Nelson
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